Last night I dreamed that my grandmother came into my bedroom and offered me a pork chop. I noticed it was raw after biting into it. I spit it out and yelled at her, saying I didn’t want it. She took it from me and said, “That is the right answer.” – Tammy 32, Parkville, MD

Lauri: Unless your grandmother is a lousy cook, she’s actually a symbol for your own wisdom (grandparents in dreams often stand in for wisdom we have gained through age and experience). She offers you a raw pork chop! Eew!! Do you feel you have been handed “a raw deal” in life or handed a raw deal recently? Your grandmother, your inner wisdom, tells you something very important. She tells you that you’ve got it right! In other words, you are refusing to take on the attitude that you are a victim, that you were dealt a bad hand in life and that is precisely the attitude that will help you overcome anything!

Tammy replies: Wow is all I can say. I have had feelings of getting a raw deal in life. I never knew my father and have a dysfunctional relationship with my mother and have felt, for a very long time, I was defeated even before my life began. I have been angry about the situation surrounding the events of my life and birth. My family NEVER shared much about my father and so I have been searching for him with no help from them for the last 12 years … and in December I found him! I am very proud of myself how I’ve been able to maintain my emotions through this roller coaster ride over the last 3 months.