I have been a stay-at-home mom for just over four years. I have wanted to get a great job that I will love. I have been studying to become a police dispatcher and have started the hiring process. Word should come about this opportunity by the end of March. This job process began in June 2003. I did my written exam and oral interview in July, and then my name was placed on a list. The background check was recently completed, and I have the psychological testing on Monday. How do my chances look?
CAREER HOPEFUL
Dear Career Hopeful,
Yes, you have a very good chance of getting this job.
There will be more politics than you expect in this position; unlike anywhere you've ever worked before. It's very important that you are yourself from day one—don't try to determine who is good or bad—simply be delightful and gracious to everyone. Especially, don't take sides over a conflict that happens within the department in about 18 months. Your priority is still your family not the stressful happenings at work.
You'll have this job for about a year and a half, and then your man gets an incredible opportunity where you may move. Either way, this experience goes with you, along with more excellent job opportunities.
You'll have news for me in about eight weeks.
Is Marriage Sapping My Energy?
Dear Mystic Mona,
I am a Latin woman and wanted to write to you about my life. Before I was married, I was full of enthusiasm, and I had opportunities to have anything I wanted. It all disappeared after I got married. I don't know why I can't find a long-term job. I was working as a maid before, but wasn't strong enough for the work. I would like to you tell me what happened?
DESERT FLOWER
Dear Desert Flower,
There is nothing wrong with the man you married. You thought that your husband would take all of the responsibility of making you happy, and what you're discovering is that you (still) have to do that for yourself.
I'd like you to find a job where the fact that you're bilingual can actually earn you more money. Banks and credit unions are always looking for bright people that are bilingual. For people with the right attitude and enthusiasm, you can be trained in a whole new career. Also, consider some of the temporary staffing services, they may be able to find you something you hadn't considered.
You have so much to look forward to if you just decide.
Just decide what you want in life, and then the action of living becomes so much easier and enjoyable. Make a top 10 list of what you'd like in 2004, and put the list on your refrigerator with a magnet. I want you (and your husband) to see this list. (It would be a good idea for your husband to write out his list, too, because you two are a team.)
A little note about your husband: He's wondering what happened to you. He married a woman who was full of life and enthusiasm. Sounds to me like your husband just wants you to be happy, and since you are having a difficult time figuring that out for yourself, please don't pick on him because he can't read your mind or begin to know the deepest parts of your soul.
You'll get that magic back as soon as you satisfy (for yourself) that part of you that has dreams and desires. You are the only one that can make you happy; everything else just comes along for the ride.
Ready For A Real Relationship
Dear Mytic Mona,
I really need your advice. I'm 21 years old, and though I am young, I'm mature for my age. I want to know when I'm going to find a decent guy? I have already had a failed marriage and am longing to be happy with someone. I just got dumped again and was very hurt by it. What should I do? I'm very apprehensive about writing you, but I figured this was worth a shot because I need some kind of advice. Please help!
LOOKING FOR LOVE
Dear Looking,
There is a wonderful, dark-haired, dark-eyed man coming your way after March. However, you may have to change jobs to meet him, so I want you to find a job that's really fun. You'd be really good doing special events or catering at one of the casino properties.
You need not be so concerned that a man in your life makes you more valuable.Slow down and let the next one chase you for a change. Let everyone around you see that you can create a good time at a moment's notice. Be the generator of light, not the taker of it.
Mystic Mona is a licensed professional in the psychic arts through the city of Las Vegas. Her live, local radio show, "Psychic View," airs 10 a.m. Saturdays on Hot Talk 1140-AM You may e-mail your questions for consideration to [email protected].