THE DREAM ZONE |
with Lauri Quinn Loewenberg Dear Dream Zone, I have dreams about cheating on my husband. The men in my dream do whatever they can to lure me from my husband and my marital vows. What does this mean for our marriage?
Ask yourself if hubby's been laying on the guilt. Your inner mind is picking up on his jealousy and relating it to an extramarital affair. Whatever he's upset about, see if you can cut it back, or at least make him feel like the only man in the universe. Watch how hot and steamy your relationship becomes!
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I've gone through hell recently. I went to court in Las Vegas against my ex-boyfriend, who found it OK to beat the crap out of me. When the judge found him not guilty for lack of evidence, I was devastated. I was sure he would at least get a slap on the wrist; now I can't help feeling guilt for the next poor soul he's with—like it's almost my fault he wasn't punished.
I fell deeply in love, and it blew up in my face. What I want to know is: Will I ever find someone who will be with me for me, and won't abuse me in any way? I'm a firm believer in karma and fate, and I know one day he will get his just desserts. But because I found love once, was that my only chance?
Dear Love Hurts,
Your ex-boyfriend was the perfect example of what you don't want in a relationship. You'll know how to recognize the red flags in the next one. You'll have a wonderful, rest-of-your-life soul-mate connection. But first, you must decide what brings you joy all on your own, because the cards are telling me you won't meet the right man until you've established a pretty successful and defined career.
Until you've succeeded in some way professionally, you'll still attract the wrong men. My advice to you is to spend the next six months selfishly catering to your wellness: no sex, very little alcohol, pursue your career goals, and obtain an optimum fitness level. It's OK to go out with friends and have fun, but I don't want you thinking that sex will be a part of your evening. Take back your power and let any man know there is something about you that's worth the wait.
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I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years. He's confused about whether he wants to be together or single. I'm so lost and don't know if we'll make it, or if it's time to just let go. What do you think? I have some questions about my never-ending health issues, and if I'll have a baby soon.
Dear A.S.,
Dump the boyfriend and don't even think about getting pregnant right now! You're wasting your time with this one. You'll meet Mr. Right through work.
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I have a male friend who's always been ambiguous about his feelings for me—sometimes it's platonic, sometimes he says he wants more. I don't want to confront him because he's such a good friend and I don't want to alienate him. I have deep feelings for him and would love it if this blossomed into something more. He once indicated he wanted the same thing, then mysteriously distanced himself from me. We didn't speak for a long time and it was agony to me.
We have since re-established our friendship, and I find that my affection for him remains, but I don't want to fall for him all over again without a return of these feelings. He's told me he isn't gay. Should I be patient and see if he eventually returns my feelings, or just abandon hope and move on?
Dear Clueless,
If you don't mind the relationship as it is, he'll continue to be a part of your life. He doesn't know how to partner with anyone. As a matter of fact, he's not someone destined to marry. There are things he's not telling you about himself. You'll never know his secrets.
He likes you, but according to my cards it doesn't appear this relationship will progress to the happily-ever-after you're hoping for. His emotional investment in you is insubstantial. You should find someone who can really return your feelings.
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Mona Van Joseph is a licensed professional in the psychic arts. E-mail questions to [email protected].