MYSTIC MONA: Phone Drone

I have a long-distance girlfriend in Denver. Recently I saw her, and when I came back to Las Vegas, I had an anxiety attack. I called her 18 times in two days. She thinks I was calling to be controlling or possessive, which isn't the case. I semi-explained to her why I called on her voice mail and why I called when we spoke briefly on the phone. Now I'm back to calling her once in the morning and once in the evening.

Are we over? Will I ever get the chance to show her my side of this, so she'll see I'm not like that? I really like her and I'm not that sort of person—I just became overwhelmed and needed to talk and she's the person who can truly calm me down.

Dear Really,

Calming you down is not your girlfriend's obligation. Consider visiting a good therapist simply because you called her 18 times in two days. When you are with the right person, there is little need to prove yourself to him or her. This is not about showing your "side"— more about maintaining your dignity. The cards do not support this as a romantic relationship —they support you learning that there is more than one kind of love.

My life has been at a standstill for the last four months. I'm 19 years old and in the Army National Guard. My unit was recently alerted for "possible deployment," which means I'm looking at sometime between August and October.

This would be all fine and dandy, but I put in a request for my release from active duty because I want to retrain as an Airborne Ranger. I have everything set up: paperwork, bigwigs OK'ing my release—except for the top guy, so for the last month and a half I've been waiting on my boss to help me out and talk to the top guy to let me go. I really need to be let go because if not, my whole planned future will go right out the window.

Dear Airborne,

Happy changes happen during happy times. Your top guy's hands are tied and he's not allowed to do anything unusual. There is good news for you within about six weeks from a man with brown hair and light eyes. In the meantime, schedule a meeting with your boss and ask what the worst-case scenario would be. How long would you have to wait to go officially active if you were deployed with the National Guard in October? What can you do to prepare for that change once your obligation is completed? Ask if there is an age limit for becoming an Airborne Ranger.

Sometimes, we don't get what we want right away because we're about to be shown something more important—that's about to happen to you.

I want to say what a great person you are and I feel you are sincere in your predictions. Although I am a pretty girl with a big heart, I feel that what I want in a man I never get, or at least that was my thought until I met Bryan.

I feel he was sent to me by the stars because he's what I've been asking for. We went out for a while and then, just like that, he didn't want to be in a relationship. We still talk and, of course, we still sleep together. Every time I'm with him, he teases me by calling me the love of his life.

Do I proceed with this? In my heart I feel like he can be the one for me and I am willing to be persistent. I don't expect anything but I want to know if he sees me as the love of his life. Should I stay or just forget about him?

Dear Heart Sings,

The right guy will not take advantage of you, and I don't like that he's taunting you with your feelings. I vote for forgetting about him because you really deserve someone who'll value you. Stop looking for the right guy in the wrong places (and you know what I mean by that)! You will have your great love.

Mona Van Joseph is a licensed professional in the psychic arts through the city of Las Vegas. Her live, local radio show, "Psychic Views," airs 10 a.m. Saturdays on Hot Talk 1140-AM, and she appears Thursdays at 7:45 a.m. on Fox-5 News. E-mail questions to [email protected].