I normally don't write to psychics, but I figured after seeing you on the Fox-5 morning news that it wouldn't hurt to have your insight. Our daughter (who's 19) seems to have no direction in life and, since she was 15, has been more interested in boys than anything else. Her father and I have done whatever we can to keep her on a productive path, and we have always encouraged her. She maintained a 3.5 grade point average in high school and qualified for several scholarships in her senior year. She let all of that go when she fell in love with a guy and moved in with him (and his parents). That lasted six months.
Over the last year, she has moved back to our home twice and then stayed with her sister. Each time she left, it was to live with another guy. She's engaged now and living with this latest one. She says she's going to end it with him but will "play nice" until she can move again.
All together we have five children (all raised the same way), and our three boys are still at home. Everyone in the family is aware of the struggle that we have with this one daughter, and they're watching how we handle it.
Her latest idea is to join the Air Force. She said she had made an appointment to talk to the recruiter in two weeks. Do you think she'll leave this guy she's living with and join the Air Force? Should her father and I just give up on her and watch her spend the rest of her life bouncing from one guy to another? The whole family is very discouraged and exhausted. Her bad choices have put her in harm's way before, and my husband and I have always rescued her.
Please help!
MOM AT A LOSS
Dear Mom,
She'll eventually figure this all out. You and your husband need to tell her that she won't be able to move home again without paying you rent. The free ride is over in the areas of shelter, emotional support and tolerance.
I'm all for a strong sense of "self," but not at the sacrifice of someone else. It is spiritually unacceptable for you to sacrifice yourself for someone who wants the privileges of being an adult but ignores the responsibilities. It's time for her to prove to herself that she is capable of having everything she wants. You are no longer legally required to provide anything for her.
Unfortunately, your daughter has learned that she can only define herself through a relationship with a guy. I do not see that the one she's with now will last. Tell her that you got through to that psychic on TV, and she told you that your daughter would not meet Mr. Right for four years. I see that the guy she'll marry will be connected with the military. She'll have a child two years after meeting him and these events will be in appropriate order (wedding—then child). Because the card for a military connection came up in your inquiry, I think that it is likely she'll join the Air Force.
By the way, be prepared for her child to be a challenge and a handful—that'll be fun to watch.
Readings Defined
I am impressed with your readings on KVVU and am curious about your gift. Do you do past-life readings?
My husband and I have been married for over 20 years, and we have a 15-year-old daughter. My husband is frustrated at his job. We have been struggling to prepare for our future, and my husband thinks that our struggles may have something to do from a past life. We have just entered into a business arrangement that we feel offers great potential (we hope).
I'd like to know about the "theme" or purpose of the lives of our daughter and myself. I feel like I know what that is, but it's probably too late for me to pursue it.
Tuned In
Dear Tuned In,
Past-life readings are not my specialty. I find that people who study a past life, a past emotional challenge or a past "anything" are using that as an excuse not to live their life right now.
The best way to describe what I do is, I capture (like a photograph) the highest capability of that person for that moment of time. I believe that we tap into our genius by living in the true present. The greatest ideas happen in a moment's thought, and that's the birthplace of potential.
I have a dear friend who enrolled in a culinary school when her husband passed away (at 67). She became the pastry chef at the Hotel del Coronado when she graduated. If you limit yourself by thinking it's "too late," then you'll manifest that in your life.
Mona Van Joseph is a licensed professional in the psychic arts through the city of Las Vegas. Her live, local radio show, "Psychic View," airs 10 a.m. Saturdays on Hot Talk 1140-AM, and she appears Thursdays at 7:45 a.m. on Fox-5 News. E-mail questions to [email protected].