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with Lauri Quinn Loewenberg I always dream of some gentleman and I getting shot. The dream takes place in the '30s or '40s. I'm always dressed in red. The guys use tommy guns. What does this mean?
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I'm finding myself in quite a quandary. I enjoy my job, however it doesn't pay well at the moment. My marriage isn't going well, either. I've lived in Las Vegas for 11 years, and I'm getting tired of this town. There's a lot of darkness and negativity here and I can't imagine being single here, as people seem to have such loose morals. With all the strippers and hookers, drunks and druggies, and degenerate gamblers—what chance does a nice girl have in this town?
I have childhood friends and lots of family in California. I want to move back there and get a fresh start; however, my friends and family are encouraging me to stay in Vegas because the cost of living is so much higher there. My husband wants to try and work things out, but I'm not sure I do because he's been abusive to me.
Everyone assures me that things will get better. I had a reading from a lady at the Psychic Eye and she said moving back home would be best. If that's the case, why are my friends and family so reticent to have me return? Do they see something I don't? I've never felt at home in Vegas and have been contemplating moving for many years. Do you see any signs that I should stay or go? I'm very confused.
Dear Sleepless,
No matter where you go, there you are. If you always choose to see what's wrong, your geographical locale won't change that. You're in the habit of only seeing the worst in your surroundings. There were many things you complained about in California before you moved here and because you're depressed now, your friends don't want the burden of you back in their neighborhood. I'm sorry, but right now you're not much fun.
Do or not do, there is no "try" (thank you, Star Wars). Do the following: Consult with a therapist to help you break the habit of always looking for the warts. Find a charitable organization to which you can volunteer your time—Thanksgiving is a good start. Get into a class of some sort to learn something new. And, most importantly, do not under any circumstances (unless you're talking with your therapist) complain about anything for the next month.
The hookers, gamblers, drunks, druggies and strippers have chosen Las Vegas for whatever their spirit needs to learn here, and I'll bet you a nickel that if you looked hard enough, you'd see all those same characters in your hometown, too. It's not your responsibility to "fix" them; it's their path. You're the one who hasn't been brave enough to connect with the good people here and that is your karmic obligation.
To define something, there has to be both light and shadow. It's time you looked at the bigger picture.
I earned two science degrees and, based on the number of job-application rejections I've accrued, the job market in my field seems a bit dismal. Should I continue seeking employment in my field or try a new path?
Dear Income,
The more you can show up in person to apply for a job, the more likely you'll get it (there's a sincerity about you people pick up on when they meet you). If you applied for an account representative with a pharmaceutical company, you'd be pleasantly surprised by the favorable response. You're not supposed to be holed up in a laboratory somewhere, you're supposed to learn how to connect with people. Since you're smart enough to have earned two science degrees, someone besides me needs to know that. In the meantime, develop your sales and presentation skills and know that it's your somewhat dry sense of humor that will get you the next job.
Also, there's a guy around you who's an emotional drain—he's got to go.
Mona Van Joseph is a licensed professional in the psychic arts through the city of Las Vegas. Her live, local radio show, "Psychic View," airs 10 a.m. Saturdays on Hot Talk 1140-AM. You may e-mail questions to [email protected].