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with Lauri Quinn Loewenberg I was on the beach. The water was murky, with a lot of frogs. I caught two and put them into a plastic bag with water. I decided to walk down the pier and passed a 5-year-old girl. I said: "Excuse me." She moved out of my way and fell through a hole in the pier, which was so high up it was impossible for anybody to save her. I just stood there holding my Chihuahua in my right arm and my two frogs in the plastic bag in my left.
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I have a wife and three beautiful daughters; the perfect marriage that after eight years seems to grow stronger every day. The rest of my life is tragedy, one after the other. Abused by my stepdad, my father committed suicide when I was 15, Mom never wanted ... well, that's just the tip of my iceberg.
Will I ever be able to enjoy my family without always being the guard dog? I spend more time with them than any father I know, yet I pace like a nervous dog with puppies. I'm really good at hiding my constant surveillance. My worst burden is that I know a person's character instantly. My wife knows I'm right because of my track record, yet still has the ability to give them the benefit of the doubt.
Dear NS,
Though not how you operate, people in constant turmoil are wired to use the chaos of their lives and enjoy what I call "the tragedy pissing contest." If you were to state a bad situation you lived through, these people would tell you something worse that happened to them. They moan that everything has conspired against them. These people are the world's psychic vampires because not only are they a black hole for attention, but they suck away your energy until even the most positive people look only at life's warts. Unfortunately, these people frequently create disaster in order to gain attention—even if it's bad attention.
Every person who exists right now has chosen a difficult path. Those who began their "tragedies" early in life tend to expect and draw tragedy toward them. That's the pattern that needs to be changed. You're carrying around emotions that need to resolved. Each lifetime we choose how we'll be wired. Your less-than-ideal childhood gave you not only an ability to recognize moral fiber in people, but also the purpose you've chosen for this lifetime. I don't condone your stepfather's actions or how your mother looked the other way, but it did hone your perceptions sharply.
The love with your natural father is what your family now enjoys with you. Your daughters have chosen you as their dad because they need you to protect them for their great adventures. There are wonderful adventures ahead for all of you and because you're there, nothing bad is going to happen to your family.
If I were a medium, I'd say the spirit of your father guides you. The cards tell me there is the encouragement of an older man coaching you through the rough spots. Your cards speak about your personal breakthrough in a little over a year. I recommend that you pay a few visits to a good therapist to help you retrain your view of life. If you continue to empower the ancient perspective of your youth, then the bad guys win.
You're strong enough and have earned the right to embrace a more joyful life.
Psychic Feedback From a Reader:
A year ago, you told me my case of unrequited love with "Conference Man" was going nowhere. I didn't want to believe you. When I finally got over him, and it took the better part of two years, all the days, weeks and months of obsessing and crying over him evaporated. He was dead—as though I had never had a feeling in my life for him. Really pretty amazing, the swiftness of the ending, and I'm hardly a spring chicken.
You were right. Conference Man made me realize my marriage was nowhere. With two young teens, I'm making a plan. I'm going back to school this fall and looking forward to establishing a new community.
Mostly, I just wanted to say thank you.
Mona Van Joseph is a licensed professional in the psychic arts through the city of Las Vegas. Her show, Midnights with Mona, airs weeknights on KDWN 720 AM. You may e-mail questions to
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