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with Lauri Quinn Loewenberg I dreamt I moved into a new place and left for awhile. When I returned, someone had removed all the locks and everything was gone, except for skeletal structures like bed frames.
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I'm an 18-year-old girl about to leave home.
I'm going to college several states away from my family. This is the first time I'll be living on my own, and I'm a little uncertain about my future. I'm pursuing a major in psychology, but I'm also entertaining the possibility of being a screenwriter. I have several problems:
First, the issue of tuition—my father, after not paying child support for 10 years, promised that he has some money for my sister and me to use for our educations. He hasn't been very reliable in the past and I'm wondering if he's telling the truth.
Second, I'm divided between professions, as mentioned above, between psychology and screenwriting. I'm afraid to fail in the writing aspect, and taking that chance seems risky. What can you tell me?
Dear Uncertain,
Major in psychology, minor in either English or journalism. College will be easy for you, especially with this course of study. When you're comfortable with writing, you'll be able to open many doors. Begin shooting for internships in your second year of college.
Call Dad ASAP and say: "Dad, I'm so excited about going to XYZ University this fall. You mentioned that you'd be helping me out financially, and I wanted to let you know that I need to register for my classes in about two weeks." See what he says. I think you've been getting mixed signals from your mom in connection with your dad and though he's no saint, the cards say he finds a way to keep his promise to you.
It's important that you're the one to call your father. You might even suggest that he go with you for the matriculation process at the university. He needs to understand (from you) what a big step this is for you. The other reason it's important that YOU call him is that I want you to learn the importance of going to the source of things. The source here is your dad; the source in the future might be the person who makes a decision about hiring you. I want you to learn to be comfortable speaking with those in authority and/or those who may have an impact in your life.
I'm sure you get slammed with e-mails but I thought maybe you could help me. I'm a 19-year-old male in Vegas. I've recently come out of a bad relationship—she cheated on me numerous times and I stuck it out until recently, when I just couldn't take it anymore. I have financial issues, plus a couple friends who never want to hang out, and these days, I'm sleeping on my mom's couch. I've been in such a rut for quite a while now. Will things get better anytime soon? Is there anything you can tell me to help me look toward a brighter future? Or am I just unlucky? Please help me. I just want things to get better.
Dear Compass,
You make your own luck and in this case, your mom is about to ask you to move out. She's annoyed seeing you do nothing. The UPS guy is not going to deliver your life to you while you're hanging around the house.
I recommend you enlist in the military—I specifically get Air Force. Not only will that allow you to do something until you decide you're the one who creates your life, but it will provide you with some college benefits once you complete your three- or four-year obligation.
I see this military experience as the base for you ultimately being hired by a more elite government or private agency involved with code-breaking or research work. I'm glad your former friends have decided to not "hang with you" because now you can stop hiding how smart you are and learn to focus that intelligence.
Mona Van Joseph is a licensed professional in the psychic arts through the city of Las Vegas. Her show, Midnights with Mona, airs weeknights on KDWN 720 AM. You may e-mail questions to [email protected].