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with Lauri Quinn Loewenberg I dreamt I awoke in the morning and realized my ex-boyfriend had stayed overnight. We dated for about a year but it tapered off due to being busy. I was surprised and happy about it. Then I walked out of the bedroom and saw that everything in the house had been taken away! Not only was it empty but also destroyed—light fixtures ripped out of the wall, carpets torn, every room empty and bare. The shock of it woke me.
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I'm in a unique (even by my standards) relationship with a young man who is in prison. Carlos really is an OK guy (with an old soul, despite certain immaturities). He'll be out in a year or two, after which we can move into a more "natural" relating (i.e., where we can actually see each other!). What do you see around this unusual and special connection?
A.M.
Dear A.M.,
You are correct; Carlos is an old soul. This romantic relationship will evolve to something more sublime. The Karmic lesson for you is simply compassion. His Karmic lesson is a bit more complex. I see that he'll first learn about "freedom and boundlessness of mind." While his physical freedoms are limited, he's supposed to learn how powerful his mind/soul is.
You two are best together as a soul friendship—the less of a focus on sex, the more powerful the relationship will become, I promise.
I am a 50-year old male and I feel like my life is a do-over due to choices I have made. My attempts at finding a new job have been fruitless, I assume because of whatever background database: I was arrested for solicitation in 1987 (that was supposed to be a suspended sentence—record expunged), but I assume, due to interviewer responses, that information and other allegations from previous employers appears in searches. I left a job because of inappropriate material being viewed on my computer, and I have looked for Internet affairs. Resisting porn is an ongoing challenge.
My spiritual awakening began a few years ago. Currently my emotional state ranges from hopeless to hopeful. I no longer know what to do, and I pray to God and ask for help to change my charts and add an exit now to release my body and have my spirit received. I feel like Jimmy Stewart in It's a Wonderful Life; because he felt he was worth more dead than alive.
What do I do? Seek counseling? I must work. I don't think I can even get a job driving a truck or a cab. I have tried applying for hourly jobs as well as the white-collar jobs I have had in the past. Without others' opinions, most people like me. I do above average work and am very reliable. The challenge is furthered by the fact that we are now guardian of my granddaughter age 9 who came to us from an abusive situation. I want to be able to support and provide for my family as well as send my granddaughter to college when the time comes. Please help.
Dear G.H.,
Yes, you need counseling (through whatever means you can) as quickly as possible. The next four months will be very difficult for you and the more psychological support you can have, the better. I don't see you back into a reasonable paying job for at least four months and until then, you must combat isolation.
Check the confidentiality of your record with the authorities, so you know for sure what's being said. Also, ask those same authorities about whatever assistance might be available for you.
Stay busy for the next four months. Perhaps there's training or credentials to obtain, or volunteering at your church so you can stay on course with your resolve. Whatever it is, you already know that it's a possible solution to your situation. It's the interaction with people that will get you the next job and I do think you have more options than being hired at an adult bookstore.
Note to readers:
If any of my readers are aware of an organization that may assist the above man with counseling or job placement, please let me know and I will print that resource in my next column. That information will benefit many.
Mona Van Joseph is a licensed professional in the psychic arts through the city of Las Vegas. You may e-mail questions to [email protected].