THE DREAM ZONE |
with Lauri Quinn Loewenberg Dear Dream Zone, I dreamt a black snake was coming straight toward me and bit me. I then realized I had a hole in the fleshy part of my hand, and the snake had passed through it. My sister and I were observing the bite and decided there was no poison because there were no teeth marks. Then I immediately woke up. I am going through a very rough time with my ex-husband, whom I left because he was violent. Now I am working and supporting our daughter, but my ex wants to bring me to court again because he wants her.
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We were going to move to Missouri, but didn't because of our financial situation. I'm wondering if that was a good choice and if life will get better here. I also have an idea and don't know if it will ever happen or how to make it happen. I just would like a general aspect of my future.
Dear Desperate to Know,
You weren't supposed to move back to Missouri. August will probably be the most uncomfortable month you go through this year, yet it offers you the most potential. You must give up unrealistic expectations that someone else impressed upon you. Make August all about releasing things from the past that hold you back.
You've been cultured that it's perfectly OK to support someone else in their success and you feel a weird sense of shame when you look to accomplish something yourself. Stop that! Spend this month really looking at how much of yourself you give up to others. Visualize what success looks like. Firmly establish that scenario in your mind and begin behaving as if that reality is on its way. Write a business plan about your idea and get it copyrighted, if applicable. Be willing to do the work to be successful. When you figure out the "how" on your own, no one else can claim rights to your success but you. Ask questions, do the research, and realize you can have whatever you want.
Think of this time in your life as if you're a contestant on one of those reality shows. Think of the million-dollar prize at the end of this game you when figure this all out. Remember, no one can do anything the way you do it—that's the secret. There is no competition, only you doing your absolute best. You win simply because you tried.
I moved here recently because I strongly felt I would meet a husband here (I'm twice widowed). The doctor I've known for 24 years has IRS problems. I haven't been able to find a job similar to my current occupation of loan officer. Where do I need to go to obtain income and my new husband?
Dear JR,
The cards say to focus first on your job. I think you can get a job within two weeks if you begin calling all the financial institutions in town and let them know what you do. And don't have the tone in your voice implying they won't hire you—I'm picking up that you've been your own worst enemy lately.
Also, find a way to get involved with a couple of groups here in Las Vegas—Toastmasters (public speaking is always a good skill), or get involved with a charity, or join a ladies gym to meet some friends. It's time to get out of the rut you're in.
The karmic lesson I'm picking up from you is once you decide you're having a contented life without a man, that's when you meet him. I do not see a serious relationship for you for about two years, so you're being given time to build an identity without the responsibilities of a man in your life. You're not supposed to make any man your purpose in life.
I met this guy and he seems interested in me. Is this a man I could have a good relationship with? The only problem is I get really nervous around him—he's so hot! Don't get me wrong, he seems really nice, too. I'm also afraid I could be wrong, and scared he'll turn me down if I ask him out.
Dear Want Him Bad,
Let him chase you and don't make the first move. It might take until October for him to ask you out, but it's worth the wait. He's still letting go of a past relationship and I don't want you to be that "transition" girlfriend. Just be charming, flirty, and delightful when you run into him. ... On second thought, flirt with everyone; I want you to see how much fun that is.
Mona Van Joseph is a licensed professional in the psychic arts through the city of Las Vegas. Her live, local radio show, "Psychic View," airs 10 a.m. Saturdays on Hot Talk 1140-AM. You may e-mail questions to [email protected].