I just had a couple of seemingly simple questions that I was hoping you might be able to help out with.
First off, my wife and I have been together for roughly four years. I can't honestly say it's been all good, but then again, it hasn't been all bad either. Lately, it seems as though we're heading in different directions. Have we come to the end of our road, or is this just a detour? My other question concerns what I'm doing or not doing with my life. I feel like there's something else I should be doing but I can't figure it out for myself. Do you see anything specific that I should possibly be doing? Thanks for any help you can provide.
Seeking Direction
Dear Seeking,
The relationship with your wife is a soul connection. Therefore, it's important that you recognize that it's not her responsibility to make you happy, define your destiny, or give you your greater purpose. She's supposed to support you in the seeking of these things for yourself, just as much as it is yours to help her in that same quest. I don't see an end of the road in your relationship unless you decide that it's up to someone else to make you happy. That's the quickest way to misery—thinking that something outside of yourself can bring you meaning.
I do see your current lifestyle changing for the better. You'll have greater satisfaction in your work if it involves solving problems because you thrive when you're using your brain. The downside of men (like you) who have such an expansive way of thinking is they don't DO anything because they think they already have lived the experience in their mind. That's why you're so uninterested with life right now, because you're not trying or doing anything new. I see you going to work, coming home, having something to eat and falling asleep in your favorite chair in front of the TV.
There are three things that define a happy life: someone to love—you have that; something to do—yep, you have that too, sort of; and something to look forward to—that's what we need to work on. I don't see you have many friends outside of your relationship with your wife (and you haven't even told her what's going on with you!). Sometimes we can get so bored that we'll create something disruptive and even downright uncomfortable just for something out of the ordinary to do. Please don't let yourself get to that point because you won't be happy with the result.
Find a way to learn more about your line of work or take a cooking class or a wine-tasting class with your wife so you can meet new people. Plan something really fun for Valentine's Day for you and your wife that would be a real surprise for her. Book yourself in one of the local hotels for the night and order root-beer floats through room service (or fill a cooler with a quart of ice cream and cans of root beer to make your own). The most important thing in life is learning to love your journey and in order to do that you must learn to love more.
Paraphrasing from the words of the Great and Powerful Oz: "It's not how many people love you, it's how much YOU love." So go on and love more.
Does she find lost objects?
About a year ago, my husband and I weren't getting along so I hid his wedding ring (dumb, I know) and said I didn't want to find it until we remarried and renewed our vows. Our finances are such that we can't really spend money for a new ring and I don't remember where I hid the original! Can you help? Our marriage is good now and I really want him to enjoy his wedding ring. Please help!
Wedding Ring Blues
Dear Blues,
It is not my specialty to find lost objects but, I'm giving yours a try because your question is so sweet. Is there a picture of your grandfather in your home? I see that the ring is near a wise older man with silver hair. Do you have a treasure box that you started when you were about 6 years old? The ring might be in that box with a black and white picture of your grandfather. He's someone you really loved so you may have hidden it near him. The cards say you'll have the ring back by June.
On another note, I see there's a possibility of a child coming into your life in the next six months. I'd like to see your husband laugh more—he's taking things so serious lately and even though he doesn't tell you often, he counts on you to cheer him up.
Mystic Mona is a licensed professional in the psychic arts through the city of Las Vegas. Her live, local radio show, "Psychic View," airs10 a.m. Saturdays on Hot Talk 1140-AM. You may e-mail your questions for consideration to [email protected].